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what should i do "i need yall help for real"

ok yall a few weeks ago i had my heart broken by a girl that i thought liked me alot ok this is what happened we work at the same place so i had always thought see was cute and so i made a move and we started to get to know one another i told her alot about me and i dont do that but for some reason i did with her and she did the same but anyway 3 monthgs went by and she was all like i like u alot and telling me all this good stuff and then one day out of the blue she told me she just wanted to be friends i was really hurt by this because i felt everything was going good and she just backed away from me and it hurt alot so bad that i told her i dont even wanna be her friend because i feel like she played with my emotions for 3 months i mean come on it doesnt take that long to tell someone u just wanna be friends so can yall tell me if i am wrong for not wanting to be cool with her because when i see her at work its just like all the bad emotions i have for her come out and i hate to even see her so please yall let me know

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Permalink Reply by Reneaux Ruffin on April 23, 2009 at 5:33pm: Well, unfortunately this happens quite a lot. What to them seems obvious, might not be so easy for us to see because we are blinded by our own emotions and thus block out the subliminal ones that they give off or even ignore them. Now, i really don't believe that she intentionally did this to you, because i didn't intentionally do it to my friend. She had the biggest crush on me, but i just took her kindness for ya know friendship, cuz that's how friends act right? well she confessed and me being the ignorant, but truthful baka i am(lol) turned her down. Not because she wunt pretty or nuthn superficial like that, but just because it wouldn't work it COULDN'T work for reasons that are my own. I know how you feel cuz this has happened to me too, quite recently, but hey you do need to stay friends. There is so much the two of you will be able to teach each other now that you DO have such a close friendly relationship with her. It's worth it trust me. It'll be like getting a sister(which prolly sounds weird due to the sich), and i know it's gonna feel awkward for a while, but you gotta try to get over the fact that you just can't date her. Preoccupy yourself with something else productive like drawing, writing(not about love), or singing(no love songs or blues you a go crazy believe me lol). But you'll get through this tee hee i mean c'mon, you're YOU!!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by adam on April 23, 2009 at 7:22pm: well i am hurt but i already told her i cant be friends with her i just cant be cool with someone that will play with my emotions a true friend would never do that and i miss chatting with her but she is in my past now and i have to try to find a new job soon because i cant take seeing her in the hallways at work; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Reneaux Ruffin on April 23, 2009 at 8:36pm: If you truly believe that she intentionally played with your emotions, then you are playing right into her hand by leaving and being sad. Fine, don't be her friend, i won't ask that of you even if i do believe that it is the best thing to do at the moment. But you can not run away from her, and i know it probably does not seem like running, but it is if she truly is your enemy. in the end, though, what really matters is YOU. If you feel it is the best course of action, then i can do nothing but honor your decision and hope you obtain the best of the possible results.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by adam on April 23, 2009 at 8:41pm: well thanks alot for caring and if i see her at work i will try to at least say hi; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Reneaux Ruffin on April 23, 2009 at 8:49pm: Right. Good luck; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by evilpuke on April 25, 2009 at 8:01pm: Don't let it mess up future relationships. I had a similar situation. Eventually I said you are no longer welcome in my life but I still had feelings and allot of resentment. I met a great girl, we have good relationship but we have problems from my past one. Most of these problems are from me from this baggage I still carry.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by adam on April 25, 2009 at 8:08pm: well i will try not to let it mess up any relatioships i have in the future its just i am use to having my heart broken every relationship i have been in have ended in me being cheated on or them just not accepted me for me; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by evilpuke on April 25, 2009 at 8:59pm: You don't need somebody to be happy, I was single for all of about five years before I met my wife. I was not looking and neither was she. It just happened. I was happy by myself though. Learned much about myself to.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by sabrina lynn campbell on July 2, 2009 at 11:40am: Well you are a grown man. You know your emoshions better than anyone else. But did you even try talking to her about it or did you just loose your top about it. If you really cared about her then y wouldnt you want her to be in your life as a friend insted of not in yourrlife at all. Well to late for that. You could of had a great time and it takes longer than 3 months to fall in love. Sorry to be so brutal but life sucks trust me.; ▶ Reply to This