guys and their dumbness.

[Jessica☆]

i have a very serious question for everyone...
y are guys so dumb all the time? not like with schoo but with relationships and shit? i cant understand why. maybe it is because im blonde or something. but i need to know because i have gotten hurt way to many times and i need to know if its just cuz im a dumbass with picking guys or thats how most of them are. lame, dumb, and make girls cry about shit that they shouldnt be sad about.
so yea thats my question.

[maximum deminic diabolic soul]

you're not dumb thats how most of them are most don't respect us where they don't even know us, they don't respect theirrselfs or take anything or anyone seriously because. Nobody maybe did't take them seriously in the past or respect them. So they take it out on us i just ignore them because we are alot more smarter than them, but the ones who do respect us i'll just talk to them as friends, if one want to or think about becoming. More than friends i'll take it slow.

[neversilent]

You have an interesting point. However I fail to see the contrast in intelligence. Women are not "smarter", they are able to stay focused longer, concentrate on one thing harder, and absorb information faster. I was raised in a house with 4 sisters. I respect women in just about every right. Another thing, and Im not saying that this rings true for you, but how can a lot of these ladies want men to respect them when they dont respect themselves! Here is a thought. Dont put out on the first date. Hell, not even on the fifth or sixth. Try to see if there is real staying power there before you let intimacy into the room with you. Guys tend to "fall" for a girl rather quickly when shit gets intimate. But give it about 3 months, there is no moral or intellectual base for the relationship to fall back on. Its a road that runs both ways, and unfortunately, in this game of frogger, we tend to get hit a few times before we make it to the other side.

[Charlotte Tracey]

ooooo!! I love frogger....I never get hit by the car! ^_^ I is a beast!

[Mr Monster]

Wow, sir. I agree with you in every aspect.

Sex and intimacy are too closely related now to viable relationships in the young in our society, but those a healthy relationship does not make.

You're 17, and I can't possibly expect you to understand what comprises a plausible and meaningful relationship because you act too much on the NOW, and not the LATER Jessica. As do boys at that age, living in the passion of the moment and their young lives. And now, more than ever, that "Living in the NOW" phase lasts for record long lengths until some have reached adulthood at their 30's and are just realizing they need to change their views if they plan to find somebody to spend their life with.

The stupidity is also subjective to each, the male and female species. Yes, boys and girls are different SPECIES. Throw this at your Biology teacher. The Male and Female branch of the human species are the ONLY existing creature who, of opposite sex, have different bone structures. But I digress... Not only are both more likely to be ignorant of the ails of relationships at your age, but you haven't lived long enough or experienced/learned enough to even realize what you said was so wrong and conceited.

The words spoken in this thread will fall on deaf ears.

You want to know what a meaningful relationship means, go find an elderly couple that has been married for 30+ years, longer than all adolescents can hold a JOB let alone a relationship, and ask them how they made it work. Seriously sit down and LISTEN to what those "old folks" have to say because they're MUCH smarter than you.

Senile or otherwise, you have too much to learn and are headed for heartbreak if you continue thinking the way you do.

[Charlotte Tracey]

I feel the need to back up the guys a bit.

Guys just think of things differently then girls do. I will admit, we girls are more sensitive to certain things that most guys don't even think about.

For example, one of my friends is concerned about having kids. She might not be able to, ever, so she wants to try as soon as she has the chance with her boyfriend. They are already planning on getting married, and are currently looking an for apartment. She recently had a scare that could have left her infertile, but is OK for now. But she's not sure how much longer she can hold out before she may never have kids. Naturally she is very upset. Now her boyfriend, he said to her that he's not really interested in having kids, ever. He said that next year they can talk about maybe considering the possibility of trying. He doesn't want to "change his life just for something that's cute."

She's very upset.

He doesn't see why it's a big deal.

Guys and girls brains are just wired differently.

[Jane Doe]

idk, I have quite a few reasons to completely hate guys and go all Menocide on them, but I don't hate all of them. I just find that really weird

[Sick]

I clicked on the wrong link. I found my entire gender being bashed. Bummer. Look all I can really say is don't lump all guys in the same category if you've had bad experiences with a handful. I'm not an asshole, just most of my gender is. We really are wired differently. We aren't very emotionally intuitive, and we tend to think in the moment which isn't always a good thing. Mostly because of how we're raised. We're taught to be tough and not show emotion, so we're unfamiliar with it later in life.

[lujain t.a]

not all guys are assholes though most of them are it hurts bu its the truth id say our around 18 years old n at this chapter of a guy's life i know for sure that all he cares about is sex beer and his friends girls usually come at last but as i said not all guys are the same u just have to look for the least stupid un childish one

[neversilent]

I will tell you this. I have been shit on quite a few times by women. The road does run both ways, but you know, some day you will find a man worthy of you. Its not if you are good enough for them, its are they worthy of you. You know what kind of person you are. Surround yourself with positive, like minded people and it will all fall in place. Forget about all the times you have been hurt, those pretentious bastards obviously didnt see you for who you are. Look at it like this, they actually did you a favor. A "survival of the fittest" type situation. Keep up being you and not letting anyone change your course. You control your destiny.

“That's what real love amounts to- letting a person be what he/she really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending- performing. You get to love your pretense. It's true, we're locked in an image, an act-” Jim Morrison

[Mr Monster]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

This man is a voice of reason among the insane. Seriously listen to what he is saying.

[XMETAL_MASSACREX]

Guys just don't think like girls. Don't take me wrong though...I am not a chick who believes all guys are the same. But guys tend to do and then think. Chicks on the other hand tend to think and then do. Sometimes we make mistakes...and learn from them...and sometimes we dont. I understand what you're going through though. I have been with pretty much all the same type of guys. Lazy, childess, arrogant, lying, empty boys. But I've come to conclude that it is better to wait for the guy who is going to give you everything you deserve and treat you as the women you deserve to be treated as, then to date numerous of guys, trying to fill some kind of void. I'm not saying that's you, but for me that is how it was for me

[evilpuke]

I have seen many guys treat women like shit and they go straight back to them. I think most males do it because they can. Always listen to your instincts.