Teasing. Is It for Fun? or for Destruction

[WrestlerGirl]

Teasing is something that all people go through.What are Your Stories?

[WrestlerGirl]

Hey Yall,I Am So Damm Sorry For Not Being On.I Have Been Really Busy Getting Surgeries And Stuff Lately.I Really Want To Thank Everyone On Here For Being So Suportive And Helpful To Your Random Brothers And Sisters.If I Don't Reply To Any More Disscussions,It Probably Means I'm In Da Hospital.I Love You ALL And I Will Pray For Alla Yall.

[Jane Doe]

what were the surgeries for? you gonna be okay?

[Mr Monster]

Sticks and stones may brake thy bones but words should never hurt thee.

The teens are crucial years in life. I spent mine having names thrown at my expense. Ill-natured jests and quips directed at me for the amusement of others. The first years of my conscious life laid to waste because I held what others said in high regard. Because I felt the ideas and thoughts of others weighed on who I was and what I would be.

Until the summer before my Sophomore year in High School I had no self esteem because I took their insults as personal reflections of who I was and let them live inside me. I took their lifeless jokes and jaunts and gave them life by accepting them as who I was. That summer, I found myself. I defined myself. I'm not exactly sure what the process was. Many nights spent alone thinking about who I was and where I was going perhaps? Thinking about my purpose being born into this world and what I believed in. It takes years for some people to find their soul and I had found mine in a single summer. When I returned to school that year the difference was unmistakable. It's a transformation everybody has to go through when they realize that they are defined only by themselves and not by what anybody else thinks of them. Their actions and their words pave the way to their self image, not the ignorant and misguided thoughts of your peers. I, like others, are made to suffer this path differently than those who found acceptance into society easily, but these tribulations and trials will only make you stronger and wiser than those around you.

[Benjamin Edward Clark]

i get picked on, questioned, labeled, and made fun of every single day. for just being myself. there is only like three people around here that understand me. i get picked on for things like wearing eye liner and black and green finger nail polish. it doesnt bother me sometimes but if they push the right button i go berserk. but in the end i'll just sit back and laugh knowing that i will never ever be an average existance like the corroded mundane people of this god forsaken town.

[Mr Monster]

Fuck them! Who are they to throw labels at you because you're not just like them.

The problem is that we have, for generations, been taught as children to chastise the different and the abnormal. Racism, gay-hate. Everything roots back to how our parents taught our parents taught our parents taught our parents. The nail that sticks out most gets hammered hardest.

If they are happy with being part of the conformist collective hive mind of Abercrombie and American Eagle then let them be as such. When they grow up they'll realize that they are SURROUNDED by people different from them and won't get ANYWHERE in the world without accepting people for who they are and respecting them equally, a moral value that should be perpetuated and enforced through ALL children.

[Annie Thema]

I was teased from the beginning. My breaking point was in elementary school. My mom would make me these homemade dressed with matching bloomers for underneath, largley because we couldn't really afford much else. I loved them (still do lol) but appearently that wasn't good enough for the rest of my "class." The one day, and I mean the only one, that I forgot to wear those matching bloomers underneath my dress, one of the cretins who usually made me their target decided to pick my skirt up. I thought I was in the clear until later that day I realized I wasn't wearing any bloomers, just underpants. I'm still embarassed. After that, I became a sort of tom boy for a bit and started ingnoring them. When the ingnoring stoped working, I started fighting back. One kid I threw some bark at (and fairly accurately for a 4th grader) to get rid of them. It took me til about the 8th grade to perfect my fighting back withouth (usually) having to take it to a physical realm. I became the kid most people where too afriad of to mess with. Then in high school, I too became a dark haunting shadow in the corner. I dropped out of high school, but still haven't managed to get away from the teasing. There is even a guy I work with who is a total creep. He's teased me from day one. It's supposed to be all in good fun, but sometime's not so much. For the most part, I'm past the crap that has happened, and can soak the majority of what is handed out now, but somedays it's hard. Innocent teasing is all good, but often times, that's when someone says something that hurts the worst...

[Trendkiller7x]

I still have some issues from time to time with my self-image/self-esteem and they stem partially from the bullshit other kids put me through in school. I didn't conform to the norm, so I caught shit for it up until late in high school. I tried to conform and stopped catching shit for a while, and that was really no good either. It was incredibly boring - the popular crowd cared about 3 things: cheerleading, dancing and popular boys. I cared about one thing - music, mostly of the metal variety.

My family was no help either. They wanted me to conform because they were soooo worried about what other people thought of them. So no support there. The only true support I had came from music and some really cool friends.

People can be such assholes to each other, and much of it seems to stem from insecurity. Whether it's their own self-image or their place in the social hierarchy, they're just looking to step on the back of someone else to lift themselves up. They don't give a shit who they hurt.

And for what? They seem to aspire to such a mundane existence. It's almost like it's scripted. I refer to it as the Life Script (TM) because there's almost no variation! And certainly not in the tiny town in which I grew up. I got the fuck outta there as fast as I could. I needed to make my own path. Let those troglodytes stagnate in the swamp of the status quo.

I do agree with Mr. Monster, the problems start with what people teach their kids. It should never be acceptable to be cruel to someone who's different. And it should certainly never be acceptable to be cruel to someone who's different under the banner of religion...especially when people like to crow about how their religion is about love.

[Annie Thema]

OMFG, fuck people and their lables. Fuck them. I love how parents inprint their children to hate. Thanks for ruining life for the rest of us who don't where American Eagle or Hollister. Fuck, like I could fit into their substandard sizing if I wanted to anyway. Sorry I'm healthy and don't throw up my bag of cookies after eating them. How dare they catagorize anyone. I've spent years trying to make them happy to finally realize that it doesn't matter anyway. I am a perfectly smart, functional human being. Just because I'm not your carbon copy does not mean that you need to pick out the characteristics I have that you don't. Too bad I wasted my years being wrong. Now I know, your teasing doesn't matter. You have no power over me.

[evilpuke]

What you said, you make me want to go eat cookies, and not just a couple. I mean enough that it gets all up in my beard and all over the place and people who see me think I chased down the pillsbury dough boy like a pack of wolves through the woods and tore that mother fucker limb from limb until I was lying on the ground exhausted with a full belly. Yeah, screw that dough boy.

[WrestlerGirl]

hey yall, in reply to jane doe(my biggest supporter along with all my friends), i have had 18 surgeries so far and none of them have helped, i am goin to be having a spinal surgery soon so its kinda ify if its gonna turn out ok(thanks for askin) lolz
I'd Like To Thank You All For AMking This one Of the biggest disscussions on this site, i love you all, and if u would like tew talk, mail me!!!

[Amy]

There is a HUGE difference between teasing and harassment.